Frequently Asked Questions
Legal planning plays an important role in protecting your wishes, your assets, and the people you care about most. This FAQ page provides clear answers to common questions about estate planning, wills, trusts, powers of attorney, healthcare directives, elder law, and other key legal considerations.
The questions featured here were thoughtfully selected from meaningful conversations and valuable insights shared on the Hey Woman Podcast, transforming important discussions into a practical resource that can help individuals and families plan for the future with greater confidence and peace of mind.
What is a power of attorney?
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A power of attorney is a legal document that allows someone to name another person to make decisions or act on their behalf if they are unable to do so themselves. Depending on the document, it may cover healthcare decisions, financial matters, or both. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
Why does every adult need a power of attorney?
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Every adult should consider having a power of attorney because emergencies can happen at any age. Once a person turns 18, parents and family members no longer automatically have the authority to make healthcare or financial decisions on their behalf. Having these documents in place provides clarity during a crisis and helps ensure the right person can step in when needed. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
How do I choose the right power of attorney?
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Choose someone who is trustworthy, responsible, communicates well, and can make decisions under pressure. The best choice is not always the oldest child or the person who wants the role. For financial matters, choose someone who can manage money responsibly. For healthcare decisions, choose someone who can communicate with medical professionals, ask questions, and advocate for your wishes. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
Can more than one person serve as power of attorney?
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Yes. In many states, more than one person can serve as power of attorney. Depending on how the document is written, they may be required to make decisions together or may be allowed to act independently. Families should carefully consider communication styles and decision-making abilities before naming multiple agents. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
What happens if someone does not have a power of attorney?
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If a person becomes unable to make decisions and does not have a power of attorney, family members may need to seek guardianship or conservatorship through the court system. This process can be time-consuming, expensive, and stressful during an already difficult situation. A properly prepared power of attorney can often help families avoid court involvement. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
Does a power of attorney only matter if someone is incapacitated?
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No. A power of attorney can be valuable even when a person is still able to communicate but is overwhelmed, seriously ill, hospitalized, or unable to effectively advocate for themselves. It allows a trusted person to assist with communication, decision-making, and advocacy when support is needed most. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
Why do power of attorney documents matter for caregivers?
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Power of attorney documents identify who has legal authority to make important healthcare and financial decisions. They reduce confusion, improve communication with professionals, and help families avoid conflicts about who should be making decisions during a crisis. Clear legal authority often makes caregiving more manageable and less stressful. - Episode 27 | Family & Social Caregiving
What documents does every adult need?
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At a minimum, every adult should consider having a healthcare power of attorney, financial power of attorney, and a will. Depending on individual goals and circumstances, additional planning tools such as trusts, advance directives, and asset inventories may also be beneficial. These documents help protect both the individual and their loved ones. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
Is a will enough for estate planning?
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A will is an important part of an estate plan, but it is often not enough on its own. Beneficiary designations, powers of attorney, trusts, asset lists, and long-term care planning can be just as important. In many cases, beneficiary designations control who receives assets before a will is even considered. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
What is the difference between a will and a trust?
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A will is a legal document that directs how assets should be distributed after death. A trust is a legal arrangement that can manage and distribute assets during life and after death. Unlike a will, a trust can often help families avoid probate and provide greater control over how and when assets are distributed. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What is probate and why do people try to avoid it?
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Probate is the court-supervised process of administering and distributing a person's assets after death. Many families try to avoid probate because it can take time, create additional expenses, and require court involvement during an already stressful period. Trusts and beneficiary designations are common tools used to minimize or avoid probate. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
Do I need a trust if I'm not wealthy?
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Possibly. Trusts are not just for wealthy individuals. They can help families avoid probate, protect assets, support loved ones with special needs, provide for minor children, and accomplish specific goals. A trust is often about control and planning rather than the size of an estate. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What does a trust actually do?
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A trust serves as a set of instructions for managing, protecting, and distributing assets. It can specify who receives assets, when they receive them, how they receive them, and under what conditions distributions should be made. Trusts can be customized to reflect a person's wishes and long-term goals. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What happens if I only have a will?
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If you only have a will, your estate will likely go through probate after your death. While a will provides important instructions, it does not avoid the court process. Many people combine a will with trusts and beneficiary designations to create a more comprehensive plan. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
When should I start estate planning?
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Estate planning should begin as soon as you become an adult. Once you turn 18, you have full legal authority over your healthcare, finances, and assets. Early planning gives you more flexibility, more choices, and helps prevent family confusion during an emergency. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What is the first step in estate planning?
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The first step is identifying your assets. This includes bank accounts, retirement accounts, real estate, life insurance policies, investment accounts, and digital assets. Understanding what you own allows you and your attorney to develop an effective estate plan. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What is estate planning for caregivers?
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Estate planning for caregivers involves creating legal, financial, and caregiving plans that prepare a family for the future. This includes documents such as wills, trusts, powers of attorney, beneficiary designations, care preferences, and long-term care planning strategies. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
Why do estate planning and caregiver planning matter?
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Estate planning and caregiver planning help families make important decisions before a crisis occurs. Clear instructions, legal authority, and organized information reduce stress, minimize conflict, protect assets, and provide caregivers with guidance when difficult decisions need to be made. Planning ahead does not eliminate challenges, but it often makes them easier to navigate. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
How often should beneficiary designations be reviewed?
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Beneficiary designations should be reviewed at least annually and after major life events such as marriage, divorce, the birth of a child, the death of a loved one, retirement, or job changes. Outdated beneficiary forms can unintentionally direct assets to the wrong person. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
What is a revocable living trust?
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A revocable living trust is a trust that can be changed, amended, or revoked during your lifetime. It allows you to maintain control of your assets while helping your family avoid probate after your death. It is one of the most common estate planning tools because it combines flexibility with ease of administration. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What is an irrevocable trust?
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An irrevocable trust generally cannot be changed once it has been established. These trusts are often used for asset protection, Medicaid planning, long-term care planning, and certain tax strategies. While they provide powerful protections, they offer less flexibility than revocable trusts. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
Can trusts be used while someone is still alive?
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Yes. Many trusts are designed to be used during a person's lifetime. Depending on the type of trust, they can help manage assets, provide for future care needs, protect assets, support family members, and carry out long-term financial and caregiving goals. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
Can a trust protect assets from divorce?
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Yes. A properly structured trust can help protect inherited assets from being divided during a divorce. While the beneficiary may still receive the benefit of the assets, the trust can help keep those assets separate from marital property. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What is a special needs trust?
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A special needs trust is designed to provide financial support for a person with disabilities without affecting their eligibility for important government benefits such as Medicaid or Supplemental Security Income (SSI). The trust can be used to improve quality of life while preserving access to benefits. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What is a caregiver trust?
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A caregiver trust sets aside funds specifically for future care needs. It can provide instructions regarding how care should be delivered, how caregivers should be compensated, and how assets should be used to support long-term care goals. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
How can trusts protect assets for children?
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Trusts can hold and manage assets for children until they reach an age or milestone you choose. They can provide funding for education, housing, healthcare, or other needs while protecting assets from poor financial decisions, creditors, or future divorce situations. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
How does a trust interact with long-term care planning?
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Certain trusts can be structured to help protect assets while planning for future long-term care needs. Depending on the goals, trusts may help preserve assets for a spouse, fund care expenses, support Medicaid planning strategies, and provide clear instructions regarding care preferences. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
Why is it important to identify all assets when planning?
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You cannot effectively plan for assets you do not know exist. Creating a complete inventory of bank accounts, retirement accounts, real estate, life insurance policies, investments, and digital assets helps ensure nothing is overlooked and allows your estate plan to function as intended. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What happens to digital assets without estate planning?
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Without proper planning, digital assets such as email accounts, social media profiles, online subscriptions, cloud storage, and digital files may become inaccessible. Maintaining an inventory of digital accounts and access information can help loved ones manage these assets when needed. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
What is an executor and what do they do?
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An executor is the person named in a will to carry out your wishes after death. Their responsibilities may include gathering assets, paying debts, managing estate administration, and distributing assets according to the instructions in the will. In many situations, the executor also works through the probate process. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
Who should I name as a trustee?
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Choose someone who understands your wishes, communicates effectively, makes responsible decisions, and can work well with family members. The best trustee is not necessarily the oldest child or closest relative. Instead, it should be someone who can fairly carry out your instructions and manage assets responsibly. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
Why is choosing the right trustee so important?
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A trustee is responsible for managing trust assets and making decisions that affect beneficiaries. They must balance financial responsibilities, family relationships, and your long-term goals. Choosing the right trustee can help prevent conflict and ensure your wishes are carried out as intended. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
How do powers of attorney help avoid family conflict?
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Powers of attorney clearly identify who has authority to make healthcare and financial decisions. This reduces confusion during emergencies and provides professionals and family members with clear direction about who should be making important decisions. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
Why is caregiving communication so hard for families?
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Families often have different information, different emotional responses, and different levels of acceptance regarding a loved one's condition. Disagreements are frequently rooted in grief, fear, stress, or uncertainty rather than the actual decision being made. Open communication and planning can help reduce misunderstandings. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
How can out-of-town family members support the primary caregiver?
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Out-of-town family members can help by handling administrative tasks, gathering information, offering emotional support, coordinating communication, and reducing the burden on the primary caregiver. Sometimes the most valuable support is simply checking in without requiring detailed updates or immediate responses. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
What does it mean to rehash caregiving updates?
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Rehashing occurs when a caregiver must repeatedly retell stressful events, diagnoses, hospital updates, or care decisions to multiple people. This can be emotionally draining and add to caregiver stress. Families can help by creating communication systems, such as group texts or designated contacts, to reduce repetitive updates. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
What are solo agers?
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Solo agers are individuals who are growing older without a clear support system or designated decision-maker. This may include people without children, those whose family members are not involved, or individuals living far from relatives. Because they lack built-in family support, solo agers often need more intentional legal, financial, and caregiving planning. - Episode 27 | Family & Social Caregiving
Why is trust between decision-makers important?
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When multiple family members share responsibilities, trust helps ensure decisions can be made efficiently and respectfully. Family members may not always have the same information at the same time, so trusting that others are acting in the loved one's best interests can reduce conflict and improve collaboration. - Episode 28 | Caregiving Communication & Kolbe
How can families improve communication during caregiving?
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Families can improve communication by identifying decision-makers early, establishing update systems, sharing information consistently, and discussing expectations before a crisis occurs. Clear communication often reduces stress, misunderstanding, and unnecessary conflict during difficult situations. - Episode 28 | Caregiving Communication & Kolbe
What should be included in funeral instructions?
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Funeral instructions should include your preferred funeral home, burial or cremation wishes, type of service, music selections, readings, clothing preferences, photos, meal preferences, and any prepaid arrangements. The more specific the instructions, the easier it is for loved ones to honor your wishes during a difficult time. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
Should funeral wishes be in a will?
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Funeral wishes can be documented in a will, but families should not rely solely on a will because it may not be reviewed until after funeral decisions have already been made. It is important to communicate your wishes directly to family members and ensure they know where those instructions are located. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
Why do funeral planning, final wishes, and grief decisions matter for caregivers?
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Funeral planning reduces the number of difficult decisions families must make while grieving. When wishes are documented and communicated in advance, loved ones can focus more on honoring the person's life and less on guessing what they would have wanted. Planning ahead often reduces stress, conflict, and uncertainty during an emotional time. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
When should a professional be involved?
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A professional should be involved whenever decisions involve legal authority, estate administration, benefits, family conflict, financial concerns, care planning, or end-of-life decisions. Depending on the situation, this may include elder law attorneys, estate planning attorneys, funeral directors, care coordinators, social workers, hospice providers, or financial advisors. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
Why is funeral planning considered a gift to your family?
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Funeral planning allows loved ones to focus on grieving and supporting one another rather than making dozens of difficult decisions under pressure. Providing instructions ahead of time can reduce anxiety, prevent disagreements, and give family members confidence that they are honoring your wishes. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
Why are specific funeral wishes important?
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Families cannot honor preferences they do not know about. Details such as favorite songs, readings, clothing, photos, food, burial preferences, or service style may seem small, but they often become deeply meaningful to loved ones after a loss. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
Should funeral arrangements be prepaid?
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Prepaying certain funeral expenses may reduce financial stress and decision-making for loved ones later. Families should discuss options with a funeral home and make sure decision-makers know what has been prepaid and where those records are kept. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
What if I don't want a traditional funeral or viewing?
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That's perfectly acceptable. If you do not want a traditional funeral or viewing, it's important to document what you would prefer instead. This may include a memorial service, celebration of life, private gathering, religious service, or another meaningful way for loved ones to remember and honor you. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
Where should funeral instructions be kept?
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Funeral instructions should be stored somewhere accessible and shared with the people who will be responsible for carrying them out. It is equally important to communicate where the information is located as it is to create the plan itself. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
What is the most important takeaway about funeral planning?
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The most important takeaway is to have the conversation before it is needed. Clear communication, written instructions, and advance planning help families make decisions with confidence and reduce unnecessary stress during one of life's most difficult seasons. - Episode 11 | Planning for Peace of Mind
How can families prevent identity theft after someone dies?
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Families can help prevent identity theft by notifying the major credit reporting agencies that their loved one has passed away, monitoring accounts for unusual activity, and securing sensitive personal information. Taking these steps can help prevent someone from fraudulently opening accounts or using the deceased person's identity. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
Why is junk mail a problem after someone dies?
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Junk mail may seem like a minor issue, but it can become emotionally difficult for grieving families who continue receiving mail addressed to a loved one who has passed away. It can also create privacy concerns and increase the risk of identity theft if personal information falls into the wrong hands. Families may want to contact organizations directly or explore do-not-mail options. - Episode 2 | Legacy of Caregiving
Why is legal planning still important if there will always be post-death tasks?
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Legal planning creates clarity, reduces confusion, and helps ensure important decisions have already been made. While families will still have responsibilities after a loss, proper planning can significantly reduce stress, prevent unnecessary delays, and minimize family conflict during an already emotional time. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
What kinds of unexpected tasks do families encounter after a loved one dies?
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Families may need to cancel subscriptions, notify agencies, transfer utilities, address property-related issues, respond to municipal requirements, manage mail, close financial accounts, and coordinate legal or tax matters. These tasks often arise quickly, even when family members are still processing their grief. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
Why should families think about identity protection before a crisis?
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Identity theft and financial exploitation can occur before or after death, particularly when someone is elderly, living with cognitive decline, or unable to closely monitor their finances. Taking proactive measures, such as monitoring accounts and considering a credit freeze when appropriate, can help protect vulnerable individuals. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
What role does financial protection play in caregiving?
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Protecting financial information is an important part of caregiving. Monitoring accounts, safeguarding personal information, maintaining updated records, and limiting opportunities for fraud can help preserve financial security and reduce stress for both caregivers and loved ones. - Episode 24 | Understanding Wills & Trusts
Why do families often feel overwhelmed by after-death responsibilities?
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Many of the required tasks must be completed while families are grieving. Administrative responsibilities do not pause for grief, which can make even simple tasks feel emotionally and mentally exhausting. Having a clear plan and organized information can make these responsibilities more manageable. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
What is the most important lesson about after-death planning?
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Planning ahead does not eliminate grief, but it can reduce chaos. The goal of legal planning is not to remove every difficult task. It is to provide direction, clarity, and support so loved ones have fewer decisions to make during an emotional time. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
How can families make after-death tasks easier for loved ones?
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Keep important documents organized, maintain an updated asset list, communicate key information to trusted decision-makers, document final wishes, and review plans regularly. Small steps taken today can save loved ones significant stress and uncertainty in the future. - Episode 14 | The Truth Behind Estate Planning
What is FMLA and how does it help caregivers?
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The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) allows eligible employees to take leave from work to care for a family member with a serious health condition while maintaining job protection. However, FMLA does not provide income replacement during the leave period. - Episode 29 | Balancing Caregiving & Work
Can you take time off work to care for a parent?
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Yes. Depending on your employer, state, and eligibility, you may be able to use FMLA, paid family leave programs, or other workplace accommodations to care for a parent. Some caregivers also adjust schedules or reduce hours, although these decisions may have financial consequences. - Episode 29 | Balancing Caregiving & Work
What are paid family leave options for caregivers?
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Some states offer paid family leave programs that provide partial income replacement while caring for a family member. Availability varies by state and employer, so caregivers should review local programs and workplace benefits to determine eligibility. - Episode 29 | Balancing Caregiving & Work
Does FMLA apply to caring for parents?
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Yes. FMLA generally allows eligible employees to take up to 12 weeks of unpaid, job-protected leave to care for a parent with a serious health condition. Eligibility depends on factors such as employer size and length of employment. - Episode 29 | Balancing Caregiving & Work
What is the difference between FMLA and paid family leave?
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FMLA provides job protection but does not provide income. Paid family leave programs, where available, provide some form of wage replacement while taking leave. In some situations, caregivers may be able to use both benefits together. - Episode 29 | Balancing Caregiving & Work
Can you be fired for caregiving responsibilities?
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Employees who qualify for and properly use FMLA protections generally cannot be terminated for taking approved leave. However, protections vary depending on the situation, employer, and applicable state laws. - Episode 29 | Balancing Caregiving & Work
What flexibility options can caregivers request at work?
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Caregivers may consider requesting remote work arrangements, flexible schedules, modified hours, compressed workweeks, temporary part-time schedules, or short-term leave. Open communication with employers often increases the likelihood of finding workable solutions. - Episode 29 | Balancing Caregiving & Work
What resources can HR provide to working caregivers?
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Human Resources departments can help employees understand FMLA eligibility, paid leave programs, company policies, Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs), flexible work options, and other caregiving resources that may be available through the employer. - Episode 29 | Balancing Caregiving & Work